I love the story of Abigail rescuing her family in 1 Samuel 25. A servant warns Abigail that her husband Nabal has insulted David and refused to share food with him, and that David and his 600 men might be coming to attack them. Abigail acts quickly and secretly, gathering all the food she can find in the house to send to David. She accompanies the donkey loaded with food and meets David and his men on the road as they are coming towards her home, ready to attack. Abigail kneels down on the road and apologizes for her husband’s insults, even saying “count this wrong against me”. She asks David to forgive them and accept her gift of food as a peace offering. David is moved by her confession and does forgive, even thanking her for stopping him from murder and this act of vengeance.
I have told the story many times in our workshops as an example of identificational confession. Abigail confesses the wrong done by her husband and asks forgiveness on behalf of her family. In our trauma healing class at the SSPEC Bible School a few weeks ago, we taught about identificational confession and then invited people to ask the Holy Spirit if there was some wrong done by a group that they are part of that they could ask forgiveness of like Abigail did. One man stood and confessed that some members of his tribe have attacked and killed members of another tribe in South Sudan and have contributed to ongoing conflict. Another student who is from the other tribe stood up and said that he had gone many years without seeing his brother. On the day when he was finally going to travel to see his brother, he learned that the brother had been killed by people from the other tribe. He was heartbroken and angry for a long time. Gradually, God showed him that he could let go of the hate and anger in his heart, and he began to forgive. Hearing the confession from a fellow student and the acknowledgement of pain and wounding was helpful to him in continuing the process of forgiving.
On Sunday I preached in a small congregation in Juba using this story of Abigail. As I told the story, I could see that the women in particular were impressed by Abigail’s actions to rescue her family from David’s attack. Like Abigail, Jesus stood in the gap for us, identifying with sinful humanity and dying the death of a criminal even though he himself had not sinned. Jesus’ death means that we can be forgiven and be reconciled to God. As Paul describes Jesus’ actions and attitude in Philippians 2:3-8, we are called to have the same attitude as Jesus, to look more for the interests of others than our own. As much as we try, I don’t think that will ever become natural or easy. But in gratitude for what Jesus has done for us and out of love for people around us, are there ways that we can identify with those who have offended and done wrong, confessing wrongs that have been done and asking forgiveness from those who have been wounded?
In South Sudan, there are 64 tribes and languages. Some tribes
are large and spread out and some are smaller. Some tribes have contributed
more to conflict and attacks against other groups. But there is no group that has not done wrong. When we are willing to acknowledge the wrongs done by our group, we
are leaning in to the humility that Jesus calls us to, we are seeking the good
of others before our own.
